Sunday Tea: Live Fast, Die Fearless

Sunday Tea: Live Fast, Die Fearless

Dictionary Definition: Fear (noun) - a distressing emotion aroused by impending danger, evil, pain, etc., whether the threat is real or imagined; the feeling or condition of being afraid*

The four-letter word "fear" has so much power than anyone can imagine. Many individuals' lives are stagnant due to the fear of falling in love, the fear of growth or the fear of being honest with oneself. Though our pride might sugar-coat things, fear can divert someone off the road to success.

For me, I strongly dislike (not hate....strongly dislike) to admit my fears. I would rather hide my emotions before I would ever let an individual know what can make me shake in my boots. However, if we as human beings pride ourselves to be authentic, why should we be afraid.... of being afraid?

Nothing is guranteed in this world and a happy ending isn't always promised but never trying gurantees us a boring life. Facing your fears are the spicy moments the universe likes to throw at us to help us become stronger. The difference between a success leader and a boring follower is that one person decided to conquer their fears and take a chance.

So, going into this week, I challenge all of my Crazy folks to live fearlessly and take a f*cking chance! Profess your love for someone, talk to your boss about that promotion, wear that tight dress to the club, conquer your fears and just do it! Do not think about the negative outcome.You only live once. I'm not saying you should do illegal things....I'm saying that you should just live.

Stay Crazy :-)

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Sunday Tea: You Can't Always Get What You Want......You Get What You Need

Sunday Tea: You Can't Always Get What You Want......You Get What You Need

Good Morning Boys and Girls!

In life, we are always taught to strive for the impossible. In college, people would stay up until the wee hours of the morning studying in order to achieve an A on a test. In our career, people will work hard in order to achieve great success.  In our relationships, people work to maintain the strength of their romance in order to have a long lasting love.

In everything that we do, we put 110% into it because we know that the outcome will be great but what happens when you put your all into something and the results aren't what you want?

I consider myself to be a modified perfectionist. I always want everything to work out the way that I want it to. I give my all into everything that I do but sometimes, the results aren't that great. Why does that happen, you ask? Is it a waste of time to put your effort into things?

My answer is simple: "What we might want in our lives might not be what we need in our lives." The Universe has a funny way of placing us into certain situations that we never saw coming. Students fail an exam.  People lose their jobs. Relationships break up. Friends lose contact with each other. All these situations might occur when we least expect it but in order for change and growth to occur, something drastic needs to happen. We are not "wasting our time" in life when bad things happen, it is the universe way of showing us to take a different path in our to gain want we truly deserve.

So, I challenge all of you out there in Crazy Land to never be discourage when things don't go your way. Everything happens for a reason so take the lesson that you learn from the situation, compare and contrast and move forward.

Namaste :-)

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Sunday Tea: Hate on Me :-)

Sunday Tea: Hate on Me :-)

"I asked God to protect me from my enemies and then I started losing friends"

After two years of being out of college, I've realized one major lesson: the higher you climb up the corporate ladder, the smaller your support team gets.

As you grow, you learn to deal with the side eye and judgments of former friends. You learn that as your job title changes so will the title of your relationships with friends, family and even a significant others.

As sad as that might sound, it actually isn't all that bad. In life, any successful person knows that you have to lose certain things in order to gain. That being said, it comes with the territory when friends that you use to go out with all the time now avoids you because they feel that you are "bougie". It comes with the territory when family members don't speak to you anymore because you didn't give them the $500 to pay their rent.

So, I challenge everyone to embrace their loses and focus on their growth. Everything happens for a reason so keep your head up and watch your stock rise! :-)

And for the people who are mad at you because you are growing, decidate this song to them and let them know you appreciate their time :-)

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Sunday Tea: When Is It Okay To Meet The Parents?

Sunday Tea: When Is It Okay To Meet The Parents?

Every woman knows that meeting their partner's parents is  a  HUGE step in a relationship. Meeting a man's parents and family is like they are giving you a key into soul and heart and that's the JACKPOT!

However, some women  force the process and pressure their man into making this happen. Why is that?

Don't get me wrong, I have had my moments where I wanted to have the "Lifetime Channel" relationship and have everything is perfect but why rush it?

In a world where divorce rate is high, women seem to have gone into panic mode and want to have a long-term relationship in a short period of time.

So I poise the question: When should a man or a girl allow their mate to meet their family? One month? six months? a year?

What do you think?

Spill the tea....

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Crazy Question: Should We Filter With Friends?

Crazy Question: Should We Filter With Friends?

Hello My Crazy Loves!

So, today, I think I made boo-boo. I know what you're saying, "I thought at Crazy land you don't care who you piss off" which is true but I think this time I made a boo boo.

To say that my life after college has been crazy would be an understatement; from interviews, working, networking, researching, writing, eating, sleeping and bitching, it's been a crazy world. However, I must say I am proud of myself and what I'm doing. I am an avid believer that you have towards your success rather than wait for it to come.

I am very proud of myself, so you can imagine how annoyed I am when someone tries to trample my happiness with a depressing sorry.

I know this guy. We use to work together a few summers ago and I consider the dude my homie. He's around  my age range and, like every recent graduate, is depressed about the economy and finding a job. HOWEVER, every time I would mention something that I am trying to do, he always respond with,

"Well, it's easy for you, you're a woman."

Now, I know it's hard and I must admit it is challenging for men to find a job at times but every time I would mention something, he would always respond with that very thing.

However, it seems as though I reached my breaking point. I mention some great news I received and I was soooo happy. So, as anyone would do, I shared it with the social media world and sure enough I get an IM,

"I really should do a sex change or something. Lucky you."

I don't know if it was because I didn't drink any coffee or if my feet were hurting in my heels but.....I.....SNAPPED!

It was as if I was possessed by the crazy woman in me and began to reply with vengeance,

" YOU KNOW WHAT?! THE REASON WHY I AM MAKING MOVES IS BECAUSE I AM PUTTING MYSELF OUT THERE AND DOING WHAT I HAVE TO DO. YOU LAZY MOTHER FUCKERS ALWAYS FIND AN EXCUSE RATHER THAN ADMIT THAT YOU'RE NOT DOING SHIT TO BETTER THEMSELVES"

It was not until today I realize what I wrote and I feel bad :-(  Though, I do feel he is a lazy mother(shut yo mouth), I think I could have presented a tad bit better....

So, I poise the question:
Should We Filter With Our Friends? Though some might be depressing, should be filter the things we say to be understanding and sympathetic?

It is a hard to for any graduate but I mean, I'm human, right???

SOUND OFF!

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Sunday Tea: What's Next for Kelis?

Sunday Tea: What's Next for Kelis?

All this week, the jokes were coming left and right against Kelis after what can be called the worst album sales in the history of music!

Her recent album, Fleshtone, only sold a depressing 7,833 copies in its 1st week!!! The album has become the laughing stock (or a fine coaster for some) but I wonder.....is this karma???

As we all know, Kelis and Nas went through a very nasty divorce. She took him to the cleaners and was dubbed "Gold Digger Queen" by fans after milking Nas for everything he has. That being said, is she suffering because of people's disgust? Though, we should judge the art rather than person, are people too bitter that they can't respect the album? Critics even hated the album calling it "a one tone techno mess." The album featuring the song Acapella, went to left for some. Even I, who is a true fan of Kelis didn't understand her direction nor understand why every song sounded the same.

Now, some might argue that this isn't new for Kelis. As a fan (yes, I am still a fan even though I think she has moocher tendencies) Kelis's music has never really gotten the respect it deserved in the US. Overseas, however, this girl is a LEGEND. My friends over in London think she is a god and told me she sell out theaters and stages when she performs unlike her concerts here. So, maybe she just have to give up the US market and stick to her fans overseas. I mean, many American artists gain a strong success overseas and are completely unknown in the States.

However, though her previous albums didn't get huge sales in the US, it was never THIS BAD! I mean she didn't move A UNIT!

So, I poise the question, what's next for Kelis? Can she bounce back from these sales? What went wrong? Did the PR team mess up when pushing the album out?

Though some might not like her, I do and will always be a fan, gold digging and all..

Check out one of my favorite Kelis songs below.....poor thing :-(

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