Ahhhhhh, it's that time of the year! The time of year where everyone is in the mood for love! It's Valentine's Day!
Today is the day when lovers all around this crazy world make those special dinner reservations, buy those pretty flowers and watch owners of greeting card companies plan their huge vacation after seeing their bonus from Valentine's Day card sales.
However, it is also that time of the year where #f*cklove become the #1 hashtag for many without a Valentine. Singles take to twitter or facebook to denounce love, express their feelings on how "love stinks" and wear black all day as they're in mourning.
For me, as someone who recently got traded to play on the singles' team, today is a day filled with happiness and love because I've found the best Valentine of all - myself.
I make the best Valentine because I can cook, I workout, I keep the toilet seat down AND I'm f*cking hot. :-)
On a serious note, everyone should celebrate Valentine's day. Couples should celebrate Valentine's Day. Divorcees should celebrate Valentine's Day. Singles should, everyone should. Today shouldn't be a day of mourning. Everyone should use today to recognize the people who are in their lives and the people who are finally out. Don't use today to weep over an ex - their called "an ex" because you "ex"perienced that relationship and finally realized what you want and don't want for yourself.
So, enjoy Valentine's Day everyone!
And to all my single friends out there, remember the best thing to do to get over one guy......is to replace him with a new one!
Dictionary Definition: Fear (noun) - adistressingemotionarousedbyimpendingdanger,evil,pain,etc.,whetherthethreatisrealorimagined;thefeelingorconditionofbeing afraid*
The four-letter word "fear" has so much power than anyone can imagine. Many individuals' lives are stagnant due to the fear of falling in love, the fear of growth or the fear of being honest with oneself. Though our pride might sugar-coat things, fear can divert someone off the road to success.
For me, I strongly dislike (not hate....strongly dislike) to admit my fears. I would rather hide my emotions before I would ever let an individual know what can make me shake in my boots. However, if we as human beings pride ourselves to be authentic, why should we be afraid.... of being afraid?
Nothing is guranteed in this world and a happy ending isn't always promised but never trying gurantees us a boring life. Facing your fears are the spicy moments the universe likes to throw at us to help us become stronger. The difference between a success leader and a boring follower is that one person decided to conquer their fears and take a chance.
So, going into this week, I challenge all of my Crazy folks to live fearlessly and take a f*cking chance! Profess your love for someone, talk to your boss about that promotion, wear that tight dress to the club, conquer your fears and just do it! Do not think about the negative outcome.You only live once. I'm not saying you should do illegal things....I'm saying that you should just live.
I know you all have heard this classic story at your place of employment: An employee tweets about how their boss is being a witch. The company finds out about the tweet and before Friday, the employee is being escorted out of the building.
Or, you probably have heard of this story: An employee decides to post pictures from a fun,crazy night in the club on Facebook. Those pictures of them grabbing their BFF's butt as well as them making out with that random dude at the bar gets into the wrong hands and before you know it, the Human Resource department calls that employee into their office.
Throughout my young life, I have heard MANY horror stories about how social media led to the downfall of some one's career. Some companies have even created departments that focus solely on monitoring the social media activity of the company, including what their workers are posting, tweeting, instagraming, foursquaring,etc. (I bet you didn't know that, huh? Makes you think twice about making that picture of you in pum pum shorts your default pic?)
However, is it right for companies to go to this extreme? Social media is suppose to be a platform to say what you want, when you want. So, should our careers be affected by our freedom of booty poppin' on a handstand? Should we be afraid of expressing ourselves on our own twitter page? Should men not be the mayor of Sue's Revendous on Four Square because they might loose their job?
I can argue for and against this practice but what do you think? Should your latest social media status jeopardize your employment status?
This morning during my daily gossip blog browsing session, I stumbled upon Nicki Minaj's new video "Stupid Hoe". In the trash video, Nicki was spitting about her distaste for hoes and the usual "I'm the boss" lyrics. However, what caught my attention were the hundreds of comments in response to the song.
Viewers verbally ripped the video to shred saying that the video was "degrading" and how Nicki ain't.....(you know what I mean). I find it truly hilarious to see the "haters" hate because the same people who watched the 3:30 minute video will be the same individual dropping it like its hot in the club screaming at the top of their lungs that this song is their "jam."
Have you ever noticed that it's always the ones who show the most animosity towards an individual, supports them the most all in the same breath?
Case in point: The Kardashian Family
I've read many blog entries, Facebook statuses and tweets about how they can't stand the family. However, those particular individuals will tune into E! Network to watch "Kourtney and Kim Take New York" or they will buy the latest gossip magazine to read the "explosive tell-all story" about the family. It's as if hating on celebrities is now the new form of admiring them.
To be perfectly honest, when I first listened to Nicki's new song, I thought my ears were going to bleed. However, I have no shame to admit that if I hear "Stupid Hoe" in the club and I've drank one too many vodka cranberries, I will be in the middle of the dance floor twerking it to this very same song.
The point is, it makes absolutely no sense to hate on an individual if you're going to secretly support them in the end. At the end of the day, you look like a "stupid hoe, you a you a stupid hoe".
That is all. Continue with your day.....
If you haven't seen the video, check out the video below:
"I asked God to protect me from my enemies and then I started losing friends"
After two years of being out of college, I've realized one major lesson: the higher you climb up the corporate ladder, the smaller your support team gets.
As you grow, you learn to deal with the side eye and judgments of former friends. You learn that as your job title changes so will the title of your relationships with friends, family and even a significant others.
As sad as that might sound, it actually isn't all that bad. In life, any successful person knows that you have to lose certain things in order to gain. That being said, it comes with the territory when friends that you use to go out with all the time now avoids you because they feel that you are "bougie". It comes with the territory when family members don't speak to you anymore because you didn't give them the $500 to pay their rent.
So, I challenge everyone to embrace their loses and focus on their growth. Everything happens for a reason so keep your head up and watch your stock rise! :-)
And for the people who are mad at you because you are growing, decidate this song to them and let them know you appreciate their time :-)
After two years, a new career, a new relationship status, a gain(and a lost) in friends and lost in money courtesy of SallieMae, the lady is back!!!!!
I needed to take a break from CPL because life happened. Being an adult is hard so I wanted to get a better understanding of adulthood before coming back. However, I must say, it feel so good to be home!!!
Now that we have all that taken care of....let the madness begin!!!!!!
2012 is the year that the Crazy Lady!!!! Let's go :-)
“I will not lose, for even in defeat, there’s a valuable lesson learned, so it evens up for me.” - Jay-Z
"Hi, My name is Meech, and I am a psycho" Hello world, My name is Mechell, but most of my friends call me Meech. I am a senior at Iona College. I am an aspiring publicist, looking to one day make my mark in the media world. I was dubbed the name "crazy" after having a couple of not so pleasant moments in my life, but what don't kill you will make you stronger (in my case, made me a tad bit kooky) On my site, I will explore the world through the eyes of an angry,opinionated, real, and somewhat rude woman. From music to television, sports to news, I will just say how I feel and if it is a tad bit rough, oh well. Please don't think I am a hater, in fact I am the total opposite. I just believe that it's better to tell the truth rather than make it so sweet that you might catch liabetes(lie diabetics, it a common trend folks, look it up). At the end of the day, all women have a little bit of crazy in them, I just don't care to show it :-)